From “Divorced” to “Happily Single”

Going through a divorce after a long marriage can be an incredibly difficult experience. Not only are you dealing with the emotional pain of a relationship ending, but you may also be facing significant changes in your day-to-day life, such as moving to a new home, adjusting to new financial realities, and taking on new responsibilities for day-to-day living. However, getting through this difficult time and rebuilding your life is possible. Here are some tips for getting over a long marriage after divorce:

1. Give yourself time to grieve: Divorce is a major life change, and it’s natural to feel sad, angry, and confused. Allow yourself time to process your emotions and grieve the end of your marriage. This may involve talking to a therapist or counselor, joining a support group, or simply taking time alone to reflect on your feelings.
2. Take care of yourself: During this difficult time, it’s important to take good care of yourself. Make sure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly. If you’re struggling with stress or anxiety, consider trying meditation or other relaxation techniques.
3. Connect with others: While it’s important to take time to process your emotions, it’s also important to connect with others and build a support network. Spend time with friends and family members who care about you, and consider joining a social group or taking up a new hobby to meet new people.
4. Set realistic goals: When you’re going through a divorce, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed by all the changes that are happening in your life. Setting realistic goals can help you stay focused and motivated. For example, you might set a goal to find a new job, move to a new home, or start a new hobby.
5. Focus on the future: While processing your emotions, it’s also important to focus on the future and the life you want to create next. Instead of dwelling on the past, try to think about what you want for your future and set goals that will help you get there.
6. Seek professional help if needed: If you’re struggling to cope with the emotional and practical challenges of divorce, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide support and guidance as you navigate this difficult time.

Getting over a long marriage after divorce is never easy, but with time, self-care, and support, it is possible to move forward and create a new life for yourself. Remember to be kind to yourself, take things one day at a time, and focus on the future.

I’ve developed a program for people who are struggling with moving from “divorced” to “single and loving it!” Reinvent Yourself, Reinvent Your Life. Call me for a free 15 minute consultation (615) 406-3689.